July 5, 2010

My Definite OPINION on Gay/Lesbian/Bi People

If you're in a room full of people and you say the word "gay" more times than none, you'd have everyone's attention. Homosexuality is a 30 year old controversial topic. It sparked controversy back in the 70s and is still causing the same controversy in this day in time. I actually chose to write about this topic because of one of my new favorite celebrites, and also because a comment that a child made. As a writer and a person with a deep interest in social studies, I thought it would be a good topic to explore.

Keep in mind that this is my opinion, if yours differs please feel free to enlighten me. I'm not one of those people who thinks that their opinion is the absolute right thing. I am conservative with a liberal mind.

In this blog, I'm not exploring the topic of homosexuality. That's been done many, many times and if you need information, history, and facts about homosexuality, feel free to Google it. I am attacking a certain question, that was brought on by a child, and I thought it was interesting.

A few days ago, I was at the beauty salon sitting underneath the hair dryer. A couple chairs down from me was a young woman between 21-30 years old. She had a little girl with her, who was her daughter, and she was around 6 or 7. I hate sitting under the hair dryer, so after a certain period of time, I'd take a break from all the heat. While I was sitting there on my break, the little girl comes up her mother and pats on her knee. The mother lifted the hair dryer from her head and said "Yes baby?". The little girl was an adorable, yet seemingly curious child. "Mama, how do people be gay?" she asked not broadcasting it across the building, but loud enough for several of the women in the shop to hear. The mother seemed to be at a loss for words, as all the women who heard the little girl's question stared at her, waiting for her answer eagerly, as if it had been a question they were wondering about, too. She quickly started digging in her purse, eventually finding a distraction, a Barbie doll. "Here, look what I brought...Now go play." The little girl was distracted by the delight of having a toy, and ran over to the other side of the shop where some other girls about her age were sitting. After the little girl left, the women continued with whatever they had been doing prior to the "shocking" question.

Personally, I thought the question was a great question! Which is why I'll be tackling the same question, why are homosexuals the way they are? Are they born gay? Is it brought on by their society? Environment? Family life? Do they choose to be gay? Or is it all just a trend? I'm not a scientist, but based on what I know, and what I've read and studied for myself I will answer these questions.

In this matter there is no definite answer, at least for me. I do believe that some people are born gay. I do believe that the person's environment can influence homosexuality. I also believe that some people choose to be gay.


[I'm just using boys as an example, I know there are homosexual girls as well, but it's hard to include both scenarios]

As we all know there are little boys who grow up playing with dolls, trying on mommy's heels, and doing ballet, things that typically girls would do. Then there are little boys who are surrounded by girls, and learn their behavior because there are few if any males in their life. Then on the other hand, there are guys who grow up, very heterosexual and decide to cross the line and transition into becoming gay. All of these happen in society...There's no way to explain it with one answer.

I will go out on a limb and say that I do think homosexuality and definitely bisexuality is becoming more of a trend. Before you get all up in arms, remember this is my opinion and secondly let me explain. I think it is a trend in SOME teens and young adults. They become homosexual because of the 'sexual' part of it. It's sexually appealing, fun, different and everyone's doing it. I personally know females who have said that they weren't born gay, it was something they decided to do because they were fed up with males. It also gives them identity, they get to belong in a group and stand out amongst their peers. And some of their truly gay friends can influence them to become gay, not because they are gay ut because thier friend is gay. Some people tag themselves bisexual because they want their cake plus some. I think homosexuality is MUCH more than sex alone, it's an understanding, a love and not just sex, which is what alot of teens and young adults think about it.

In conclusion, I would like to say that even thouigh I am not homosexual, I support the Gay community...Their bravery and strength has kept this topic hot for over 30 years and there's definitely more to come in the near future. I would also like to add that I did not include molestation, rape in this piece because I feel it's unfair. So many people think that people are gay because 99% of them were molested or something, when that's not true. It's hard on families when one of their family members turns out to be gay, they are looked at as a bad family because people have this misconception that in order to be gay you had to be sexually abused somehow. Definitely not true in all cases. With that being said, I encourage people to educate themselves about the LGBT community, Gay rights, etc.

Thanks for reading!


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